"Fertility treatment"

Rcently I attended your the fertility research centre. When I first enquired months ago, I was told that you didn't do social egg freezing. However, a Professor at the service advocated for me and explained my unusual circumstances, and someone called back to offer an appointment. I waited for this appointment, and worked hard on things like weight loss and fitness to improve my chances. I did not explore any other options.

When I arrived for my appointment, I was seen by a doctor who did mention that what is called "social egg freezing" was not the default position, but that, after my test results were received, they would discuss my case in a committee and get back to me. They told me to get my test results as soon as possible. I immediately got all the blood tests. They took so much blood I felt dizzy. Then I booked in for an internal ultrasound a few days later. I find this procedure very distressing and invasive. However, I underwent it. Meanwhile I had waited months for this apoointment, losing precious time.

That same afternoon, the doctor called me and said "We don't do social egg freezing". I asked for the results of my tests, and they hadn't even come through yet. I was devastated. I am almost 40 and I am a concession card holder. I had difficulty dating and finding a partner after years of abusive relationships. I had uncontrolled epilepsy for years, and the last time I investigated doing egg freezing I was put off by the dangers due to the relationship between my seizures and artificial hormones. I don't know what "social egg freezing" means, but I find it an offensive term.

Apparently it is assumed that women who don't have children do so by choice! Or perhaps, it seems, women who choose not to be in abusive relationships are making a "social" decision? Or perhaps have refractory epilepsy and being scared of clusters of grand mal seizures restarting are making a social decision? Perhaps, it seems, women who are on the disability pension shouldn't have children at all because they can't afford egg freezing? And as for women who want to get off the disability pension before they have children, well again, perhaps we are just too driven and seemingly don't deserve to have children? .

Apart from having to have objects inserted into my vagina for what I feel is no reason, and losing precious months, the shock of having my hopes raised and dashed severely affected me. I had suicidal thoughts, and was unable to function. I have had to take 2 days off form my studies , and also I was unable to do anything on the weekend. I didn't want to get out of bed. I have just lost an offer of employment because I was too depressed to function properly and missed out on some of the onboarding requirements. Part time employment is very hard to come by when you are a disability pensioner and this was a valuable opportunity.